SMART Living 365

Ideas to create a more happy, peaceful and rewarding life--365!

This Is It And Other Thoughts On Being Here Now

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As most of you know, I’m a planner.  Not only do I find it enjoyable to research options and then chart a course forward, I’m a big fan of nexting.  (Yes, there’s a blog post which explains nexting!)  For the most part, planning benefits my life in many ways. It helps me to form great habits, examine different options in order to make good decisions, and allows me to anticipate the future with optimism.  But as with most things, there’s a catch.

The “downside” to planning is that sometimes it locks me into a course of action that can be rigid if not downright obsessive.  Even worse perhaps, it distracts me from being present in the here and now. The good news is that every new moment offers me (and all of us) another opportunity to practice being here now, to appreciate the beauty right in front of me, and to always remember that “this is it.” [Read more…]

Are you Here—Or Somewhere Else?

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SMART Living 365.comYesterday was my weekly volunteer day for the local branch of The Ophelia Project.  I’ve been involved in this organization for a year and a half and it is an opportunity to mentor and meet regularly with local disadvantaged teenage girls looking for extra support.  As you might imagine it is valuable for the girls, and a rewarding experience for me.  But yesterday I knew we’d be short-handed with a lot planned for our 90-minute meeting, and I was feeling a bit anxious.  Before I even left the house I was running lists through my head to insure that everything would be handled, and found myself thinking what a relief it would be when it was all over.  Then something clicked in my head and I realized that this was exactly what I wanted to be doing—in fact I’d actually gone out of my way and signed up for the opportunity.  But instead of relishing in the current experience, I was worrying over details and longing for it to be over.  In other words, I wasn’t “here”—I was somewhere else.

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