Have you ever wondered why Scandinavian countries continue to show up at the top of all surveys and research done on happiness? Especially when you consider that for much of their winters they have very little sunlight and temperatures are freezing. Still, over and over those countries demonstrate that the people who live there rate highly in what most researchers call “subjective wellbeing.” So even though that environment is near the bottom of my personal list of where to live, and I doubt the people there walk around with giddy smiles on their faces, they clearly have something precious and desirable. Is it possible that what makes living there so unparalleled is something called “lagom?” And could it be that lagom is just the Swedish word for the practice of rightsizing?
Last week I came across the word lagom in one of the Facebook Groups I follow. A short article explained that lagom likely originated from the time of the Vikings. It is said that when the Vikings traveled around the region doing their marauding thing they lived very communally. In other words, they shared equally in all they had. For example, at mealtimes, they would pass around the communal bowl of food and drink with each person taking only what they needed—and leaving the rest for others. The word lagom loosely translates to a sense of fairness or moderation, “just right, not too much, not too little,” or “just enough.”
That philosophy of moderation, sharing and fairness lies deep in the Scandinavian culture and permeates every aspect of its residents’ lives. While globalization is gradually eroding some of the philosophy in younger generations, it is still alive and well and continues to guide the politics and other social systems of those countries. As proof that such a guiding philosophy has merit and value, the Annual World Happiness Report continues to put those countries at the top of the list.
But what about rightsizing? When I began examining the values of lagom I could clearly make the connection between it and my definition of rightsizing. With that in mind I came up with ten ways that the two concepts are similar.
- Knowing enough is enough. Rightsizing tells me that there is an amount or set-point where my needs are met and I am content and happy with just enough. Sure it might be tempting to get more—more money, more possessions, do more things—but rightsizing, like lagom, reminds me that reaching for and getting more doesn’t usually make me (or anyone else) happier.
- Good work/life balance. Rightsizing continually suggests that having a good life overall should never be sacrificed by working at jobs you dislike or for hours that are impossibly difficult. For example, the Swedes typically take over a month off every year to vacation. And according to Statistica.com the average Swedes works 29.2 hours per week while the average U.S. Citizen works 44 hours per week in any given year. Balancing your work with your personal life is rightsized.
- Sustainability and taking care of the planet. Rightsizing implies that we are responsible for taking care of those things that take care of us—like our planet. Living sustainably means we do our best to recycle, reuse and maintain our environments so that they last and thrive. Sweden is considered one of the most sustainable and “green” countries in the world with very low emissions, energy efficiency and high renewables. By caring for their environment, it stays healthy and rewards its residents.
- Punctuality, consideration and respect for others. The people in Scandinavian countries trust their leaders and tend to have respect and consideration for each other. While that kind of trust doesn’t seem to come automatically to other countries, the idea of respect, consideration and care for others is a deeply rightsized perspective. Doing to others as we want done to ourselves is living in a rightsized way.
- Doing things just right—not necessarily perfect. From what I read the Swedes don’t strive to be perfect. Instead they seek the right balance in what they create, do and strive to become. Meanwhile in many other Western countries, the drive to be perfect, to be the “best,” and “out-do” others is pervasive and often leads to never feeling good enough.
- No need to stand out or have a BIG lifestyle. According to what I read, most people in Scandinavian countries have little need to stand out or be seen as special. In fact, they avoid any display of ostentatious behavior (big houses, big cars, big???). By the same token, when a person lives a rightsized life there is little need to compare or compete with others.
- Equality and division of labor. One thing that appears to work very well in Sweden is the expectation that everyone does their fair share—both in the culture and at home. Both men and women devote equal amounts of time to childcare, cooking, cleaning and all details of the household. Like rightsizing, this equal division of labor balances the needs of every family in an equitable way that uniquely fits each family.
- Taking a “fika” break as needed. One thing I loved learning about was the idea of regular breaks taken each and every day in Sweden. A common practice is that you work a few hours in the morning…take a 20-minute break away from your desk or work area…and take a fika. A fika means taking a break with coffee, pastries and relaxing with friends. Then you repeat the practice in the afternoon—again away from your work area. In fact, Swedes would never have lunch at their desk! How rightsized is that?
- Walking in nature and getting fresh air. While not a particular rightsized habit, this practice in Sweden points to their need to enjoy nature and spend time outside. Called friluftsliv, this expression literally translates to “open-air living” and points out how important the practice is for mental, psychological and spiritual good health. Certainly in the 21st Century this activity should be included in any sort of rightsized life.
- Living frugally and financially sustainable. One practice that keeps the Danish people living a happy life is avoiding unsustainable debt. They seldom buy more than they need or can afford. With a belief that anything more than enough is wasteful, they eliminate the stress that can come with trying to compete or compare with what other people have. Such a balanced approach to finances is very rightsized.
I realize I have a tendency to see most things as rightsized. But when I learned about lagom and the meaning behind it, I could easily see why it could lead to creating both a happy life for individuals as well as for an entire country. If a country emphasizes such practices as a way of life, the push to be more, spend more, possess more and so on would disappear—and instead we could concentrate on creating a more balanced and happy life for ourselves and others.
I now have a better idea of why Scandinavian countries rank higher in terms of happiness than other countries around the world—even with long dark winters and very cold temps! With the attitude of lagom woven deeply into the culture, they automatically rightsize their lives. Perhaps it would be SMART for us to strive to the same in our own.
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