I’ve never been a big fan of New Year’s Resolutions. I’ve been around long enough to know that most of the time they might seem like a good idea on January 1—but they seldom have the power to make it through all 365 days of the year. But what I do believe is that you and I have a great deal more influence on what happens in any given year than we give ourselves credit for. And much of the time that influence can be consciously directed to create both a fantastic year, and a fantastic life. If you would like to experience the “best” year of your life, I invite you to consider the following ideas that you can use to do just that!
Here they are:
Idea #1 Make “Nexting” An Every Day Experience. I first learned about “Nexting” when I wrote the article about Why Hope Matters a few months ago. Author Shane J. Lopez, author of Making Hope Happen, came up with the word to describe the activity of thinking and talking positively about the future. Using the almost constant obsession that we all have with texting on our cell phones, Lopez suggests that we become obsessed (in a good way) with ideas of a positive future and share them as much as possible with everyone we meet (especially those that care about us). He says that how we “next” can determine whether we are confident, upbeat, nervous, fearful, or joyful, all leading us to practice actions that are connected with hopeful behaviors.
Since discovering the idea of nexting, Thom and I both have begun using it to divert conversation and ideas to a more positive future whenever the opposite makes itself known. With an intention to make Nexting part of my life, I am challenged to stay present and aware of what I am thinking, talking about, or listening to, and make sure it is focused on a hopeful and positive future.
Idea #2: Using The Law Of Attraction. Regardless of what you call it, the Law of Attraction has been with us for a very long time. Ever heard the saying, “what you think about you bring about?” What about, “it is done unto you as you believe?” Or how about, “like attracts like?” The fact is that this “Law” has been a philosophical approach to life taught by some of the greatest sages of all time.
One of the most recent versions comes from a couple named Esther and Jerry Hicks who obtain their material on the subject from channeling spirits. That’s right. Although they don’t call it channeling, that is the most common interpretation of what happens when Esther Hicks connects with what she calls infinite intelligence. She calls this intelligence “Abraham.”
Regardless of whether you believe in channeling disembodied spirits (I’m not sure I do) some of the information is compelling. In fact, not only do many current spiritual guides like Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson and Oprah praise the work, but the hit movie “The Secret” was based upon some of the teachings as well. I personally believe the best way to judge anything is to consider if it contains information helpful to us—and at that point the demonstration is all the authority we need. On the flip side, if you want to disbelieve the information, no amount of proof will change your mind.
I first heard about Abraham and his/their version of the Law of Attraction about 20 years ago. After reading and listening to several lectures I usually walked away with an idea or two that was helpful but the whole “channeling thing” sort of turned me off. Then a couple of weeks ago I read something that led me to purchase their latest book called The Vortex and start reading. And although I’ve barely covered about 25% of the book, I already know that if I commit to put into practice the ideas that I’m reading, my 2014 will be the best year ever.
The major idea that I plan to use to make it a great year is the idea that everything is vibration. You, me, and the world around us are at our core, vibrating energy. What we give out comes back to us—every single time. If we want anything to change, we have to put out a different vibration, and like a boomerang, that vibration will return to us. There is obviously much, much more to this entire way of thinking, but if any of us can remember 24/7 that we are all vibration—sending out and getting back all that we experience—we can “deliberately” co-create an amazing year.
Idea #3 Be Sure And Outline Your W.A.I. Last January I wrote about a process that I use each year to set my intentions. W.A.I. stands for 1) Welcome; 2) Accept; & 3) Intend. And while I don’t need to rewrite the process, (you can read about it here) I do believe that these three elements are important aspects to creating an exciting and fulfilling year.
Idea #4 Embrace The Idea That No One Else Can Make You Happy Or Unhappy. Philosophers and teachers throughout the ages have taught this concept as a way to greater happiness and wellbeing. It is also another strong idea promoted by Abraham/Hicks and their version of the Law of Attraction. The reason that I am currently finding it so persuasive is because Abraham/Hicks teaches that when we are operating in true harmony (there’s that idea of vibration again) then we are intimately connected to our Source. In fact, the most authentic happiness of all comes from that deep connection. While we might believe that others can either make us happy or sad, the truth, at least according to Abraham/Hicks is that only we can connect to or sever our relationship with Source—no one else. Actually, Abraham/Hicks teaches that every experience we have with others is an experience we evoke in them—nothing more or less. That makes us solely responsible for our own happiness and wellbeing. Constantly reminding myself that others cannot control my connection to Source or happiness is a way to make an amazing year.
Tool #5 Prime The Pump & Act As If. Another article I wrote a while back had to do with the unmistakable power of “acting as if.” This is another one of those sayings that has been around for millennium—mainly because there is truth behind it. Several years ago author Wayne Dyer came out with a book called, You’ll See It When You Believe It as another way to remind us that unless we first believe something is possible, we won’t even attempt it. What I discovered in my earlier article was that our brains are actually set up to look for and engage in anything related to what we are thinking or feeling. So if we want to experience something we must first “prime the pump” and set our mind and consciousness in that direction. In other words, if we want an extraordinary year, we’d better start acting as if.
I don’t know about you but I am determined to make this coming year my best year ever. And while I don’t delude myself into thinking that you or I won’t be challenged by extenuating circumstances, I am convinced that even when I can’t change those circumstances, I can always change how I view and respond to them. Besides, who among us wouldn’t like to be the one on December 31st who turns to loved ones and joyfully asks, “Wasn’t this just the best year ever?”
So what about YOU? What do you think of these ideas? I’d love to hear in the comments below what you think about them. Are they doable? Worth trying? Do you have better ideas? Please comment and share. Thanks!